I’ve heard many women say that their husbands don’t support their weight loss.
While I want to shake my finger and grumble that this is still an issue in the 21st century, I understand.
I would be lying if I said this did not cross my mind when I was losing my baby weight.
At the risk of generalizing, I think it’s fair to say that a good portion of Nigerian men “like them thick”.
This presents a unique challenge for us women because we want to be healthy.
Yet, we also want to look good for our husbands that like ikebe super.
What to do?
Steps to take if your husband doesn’t support your weight loss
If your husband doesn’t support your weight loss, there are important steps that you can take to remedy the situation.
Don’t be discouraged until you’ve tried these steps.
Talk to him
Give your husband valid reasons as to why you need to lose weight.
- Are you experiencing health problems because of excess fat?
- Are you having difficulties with work, chores, or your daily routine because your movement is limited?
- Is your weight affecting your intimate life?
- Do you feel miserable because you miss your old self?
Make sure to tell your husband that you’re not losing weight for vanity’s sake.
Let him know that you want to look good for yourself and for him also.
A lot of men feel insecure when their wives lose weight.
They start to have fears that their wives are trying to look good for other people.
His insecurity is not your responsibility.
However, it is to your benefit to talk to him and help him cope.
Do it for yourself
If your husband still doesn’t provide support after talking, lose the weight for yourself.
Remember that, at the end of the day, you are responsible for your body.
And whatever happens to it, would be your liability.
Your health is your wealth and it’s very important to protect it.
Doing this will test your relationship, especially in the beginning.
But be patient, and make him see the benefits of you losing weight.
Don’t stop offering security to your husband
Even when problems arise from your weight loss efforts, don’t stop.
Instead, continue to offer security to your spouse.
It is likely that your husband is afraid of losing you, and losing his eating partner.
He might be afraid that you would expect him to lose weight or follow a healthy lifestyle as well.
Assure him that you’re doing it for yourself and for him, and that he has no reason to be afraid or insecure.
Would he rather have a wife that is happy and healthy or one that is unhealthy and risking her health?
What if He Cheats because I’m Losing Weight?
At this point, you might be wondering.
What if he cheats on me because I don’t look good to him anymore?
Here’s the truth: a good man will not cheat on his wife because she is trying to look good and healthy.
A man that will cheat will cheat regardless of what his wife looks like.
In this regard, don’t let fear of cheating hold you back from taking charge of your health.
Love yourself and be proactive with your health and well being.
In a Nutshell
You don’t have to be unhealthy and unhappy in order to please your partner.
Try to work it out with him.
Take extra steps to help him feel secure.
Do it for you, and remember to love the body that you’re in!